Thursday, August 26, 2010

Personally Yours - Dr. Niama Williams

Personally Yours will give you a brief look inside your favorite authors world. We know they write smokin' books, but do they smoke with the Surgeon General and if they do, what? Are they left-handed or right handed? Take a personal look inside Dr. Niama William's life. Enjoy Personally Yours!

1. Who is Niama Williams? - Niama Leslie Williams, Ph.D. is a bright, intelligent woman who never forgot her community on the way to and through the doctoral process. She still wants to write work that her aunt, a day worker all of her life, could read and be empowered by. She also wants those who have survived childhood trauma to know that love, passion, and bliss are possible, no matter what you have encountered as a child. She writes about her life to uplift and empower.

2. What are you passionate about? - Letting people know that the Universe is a benevolent place and that God LOVES giving us our heart's desires. Desire means "of the sire." If we make God number one in our universe, He will give us the wisdom and insight we need to not just survive, but THRIVE. If we focus on that still small voice within and DO WHAT IT TELLS US TO DO, we will inherit the kingdom right here, this incarnation.

3. Why should the world take notice of you? - The world needs to take notice of the word of God and live according to Biblical principles. I am only noteworthy in how I help others cease their suffering. I try my best to do that with my writing. I tell my story, and the triumphs of my story, so that others will know that pain, any pain, is survivable and does not have to kill us. The Lord is there for us specifically during times of trial. On July 27th, 2010, I was faced with no place to live and no source of income. Today, August 12th, not two full weeks later, I have two business opportunities and a home until I start bringing in regular paychecks. If that isn't God being there for me in time of trial, I don't know what is! Be encouraged!!!!

4. Do you like a man that's hard-boiled (take charge) or soft scrambled (yes dear)? - I like a man who says "Yes, Dear" when he means it, but who is no pushover. Gentle, but not weak.

5. What are your life rules?
When in doubt, pray.
When rejoicing, praise the Lord.
Before asking, give thanks.
When tears come, think about whom you can help.
And when you really need to cry, let yourself. Tears are cleansing and often necessary.
Forgive in ways that cause you no further pain. Distance is not always a bad thing.
Love without bound and be optimistic. Your perspective really does effect your reality.

6. If you could only do 2 things until the day you died what would they be?

Love the man God has sent to me forever and ever amen, and bear his children.

7. 5 Favs -

a. color: red first, peach second, beige third

b. food: cheesecake, hands down

c. movie: The Wild Wild World, Prince of Tides, Nutz, What Dreams May Come, Field of Dreams

d. song: As Sure As I'm Standing Here by Barry Manilow

e. drink: Mocha Cappucino by Bolthouse Farms

8. Do you forgive regardless of what someone has done to you? - No. I am a bit like the elephant; I don’t forget. When I find it hard to forgive someone, I begin to pray about it, and often I find that I move toward forgiveness without knowing it. This is one area in which I am not perfect, but awareness of it means I turn to prayer to address my imperfections.

9. If you could change your past would you? - No. My past has made me sensitive to and understanding of the pain of others. It is also the one thing that helped me understand the pain of my beloved. We had similar wounds and this allowed us to trust each other more easily and made it easier for him to reveal long-suffering that he had not shared with others.

10. Your life is on the big screen. What is it rated and why?
- R. I've been through a lot and seen much, and I would want the unvarnished truth told so that others are helped and know that they are not alone. That is the one goal of my writing: to convince those suffering that they are not alone, that someone else has been through it before them and survived it, and that there is a silver lining, a reward, a good life awaiting those who persevere.

11. Where can we find you on the net? - I am thrilled to have folks go to Blowing Up Barriers because I have a special offer running through September 15th, 2010: check out my homepage for details. I also publish an email newsletter through; signup is on my website (archives: ). Just look for the newsletter link. Finally, you can find my radio show on BlogTalkRadio ; I’d love to have listeners join us for the spiritual leaders, entrepreneurs, and authors who join us every Friday at 1 p.m. And you, Ms. Hudson, will have to join me with your new book soon!!!!

12. Fill in the blank with one word: To know Niama Williams is to be empowered by Niama Williams.

Thursday, August 12, 2010

What You Thought You Knew...

There is a story circulating, maybe, probably not, about a 14 year old girl named Emma Charles. Supposedly Emma was repeatedly gang raped by 25 African American Soldiers for 6 weeks every day and night in Burma in 1947. Supposedly she lost her womb and committed suicide. Supposedly Emma said that, "all niggers should be drowned at birth." Supposedly her mother offered herself up instead and was thrown on a bonfire. Supposedly what you thought you knew is not what you know.

Is this our history? Is this true? Is this a tale from someone's imagination set free to cause havoc on our psyche? Is this an actual quote from a book or a movie? Has the victim's name been changed to protect her identity? Are there any Burmese women named Emma Charles? Or, could this be a spoonful of the crock of shit that has slow cooked race wars for years?

The sentence was a post made on Facebook. My first thought was that since it was from someone who is the organizer of a writing group, that it was a quote from a book. We know our history and if you are an author or reader, you may have written or read something like this. After seeing the reaction that is caused I had to know and went in search of Emma Charles. Curiosity only kills cats that don’t know how to handle the information they receive.

Emma Charles did come up in a search, but there was nothing listing her as an author or saying the quote she is linked with. Maybe she did say it in her time and her words have been passed on by her ancestors. Maybe she is a fictional character created for this rouse. I asked the person who posted the quote and was told that they receive quotes daily and wasn't sure where it came from. They did say that they didn't know if Emma Charles was still alive or dead. To all the women named Emma Charles, I apologize that your name was chosen for this. I didn't see the original post but with copy and paste not much is private anymore.

While I was searching for the "quote" so many sites appeared. WOW. Check out some of the links below if you want the full effect. Reading what is posted tells a few stories in itself.

1. Irateirishman | Chimp Mail
Apr 4, 2010 ... I'd rather be what you call a nigger with all my education and wisdom than a ... like you should be drowned at birth like the dogs you are. ... - Cached

1. Understanding the Nigger "Mind".... Updated! - Page 4 - Chimpout
10 posts - 5 authors - Last post: Jul 25
Heaven: Niggers talk about Heaven all the time like it was some giant ... would drown their offspring at birth and set fire to themselves. ... - Cached
The nigger joke thread - Page 33‎ - 10 posts - Dec 3, 2009
Nigger raping goat! (picture) - Page 2‎ - 9 posts - Nov 25, 2009
How can we encourage more nigger genocide? - Page 2‎ - 10 posts - Dec 6, 2008
Quotes Description
POSTED BY Anonymous
QUOTE Mrs B; Look at them! Five of them without dowrys. Whats to become of them? Mr B; Yes, what is to become of them? Perhaps we should of drowned some of them at birth.
HINT 1 Five daughters
HINT 2 Mr and Mrs Bennett
MOVIE TITLE Pride and Prejudice - 1940

1. YouTube - st1ckyb0x's Channel
All: Uploads: Favorites ... "YOU NIGGERS" ... "you should of been fucking drowned at birth. you FUCKING FAGGOT ... - Cached

1. Urban Dictionary: niggers
I know it, but I don't think I should say it... 5 Seconds left... All right, I'de like to solve the puzzle! Niggers! ... father dont abandone their young after birth ... - Cached

Lala is a stupid cunt.
Another misconception among liberal niggerlovers is they all believe that niggers ... You should have been drowned at birth. • Cached page

Some folks always say, “If I were you…”, “If I was a slave…,” “Oh that would never happen to me….” If a slave could send you a text message what do you think it would say? We post quotes daily from people we never met. People that lived in another era and people of different races. Inspirational words, words to make you think, words of power. Maybe they quoted words the day before that never made it to print. Maybe they said a racial epithet. Since you didn’t hear it it’s okay to go ahead and promote their beliefs anyway. What you thought you knew…

I wonder how many sites there are that spew hate about Mexican's, Jewish people or Caucasians. A racial epithet is a racial epithet. There is no level or one is no worse than the other if it's hurled at a human. It has the same meaning whether it’s said to hurt you or not. I can say it but you can't....oh, I didn't mean it that way. We pick and choose what situation we want to get mad at. We get mad when we talk about each other and mad when others talk about us. We can't change our history and are all living our future generation's history. When things are documented in print regardless if its 1922 or 1992 it was the time and it was the era. Don't get upset - get educated.

We have gone from slavery to riots to boycotts and now the delete key. The individual who posted the "quote" was reported to Facebook. He was removed by some users from their friends list. Deleted. Will we join together to boycott Facebook if the individual is not removed? Will we boycott the Internet for allowing hateful websites to exist? So many people have died in order for us to get mad, bark a little and hit delete. What will we do for the next generation?

I read a post from someone that said the creator of Facebook was an Atheist. The poster said they are a Christian. Did they remove themselves from Facebook? No. I read posts from people that use the N-word in their daily talking. Many of us are on the same lists. Was the person deleted? Did you tell them how you felt? Or was it okay because they didn't mean it like "that?"

I watch two African American Networks – BET and TVOne. They have shown movies in which the curse words are silenced, but the word nigger is spoken and heard. Was the choice made to leave the word in because it made the movie more enjoyable? We get upset when someone else blasts us with ignorance yet we hail some singers/rappers as the greatest when they put the word on top of a beat. Oh, you like the rest of the song but not that part? Oh…Racism within the race is okay I guess.

There is no denying that racism is gettin' it in 2010. The quote that was posted for whatever reason was hateful. If it came from a book or a movie I’m sure it got the point across to the reader or viewer. If it was someone letting the world know how they felt the folks who read it got it. Where it originated from and why may never be known. I'm using the N-word in my next book that is set in the 60's South. Will I be banned or is it okay because I'm black? What will we do? When did freedom of speech free us from going from action to growling? Oh, since we can say what we want we don’t have to do anything. How many of us have the M-I-S-T-E-R PERIOD mentality? Does the man/woman in the mirror crack when you look at him/her?

What you thought you knew about yourself is changed when you learn just how far you are willing to go in a situation. Do I want to stop using the Internet after what I have learned? No. Does this mean that I support the sites I found? Am I a disgrace to my ancestors? Is complaining about the use of a word, but not doing anything to stop it the same as supporting it? If a dogs bark is worse than its bite people with hatred in their heart have nothing to worry about.

Staying in your group, gangs, neighborhood or social circle is how it's always been. Complain to those around you and talk about the folks who don’t agree with you. People are killed, abused and insulted everyday. If we continue to do the least we can do then that’s all we'll ever do. To the person who originated this I thank you. You did what you intended - dissension among the ranks and then a kiss and make up session.

Evaluate yourself. Question yourself. Are you willing to die for a cause? Are you content with voicing your opinion and gaining ground with your supporters and then going back to your “regular” life? I wrote a Blog about it using the same outlet as people with hate in their heart? What else will I do? Can you live without Social Media? Ask your ancestors what they lived without. If you never had it does it even matter? The N-Word; will it ever go away? Your answers aren't for me to know, but are they What You Thought You Knew…

I luv you.

Wednesday, August 04, 2010

Is Your Change Adding Up?

It’s been said that time heals all wounds. I don't think it’s the time alone that heals, but the changes and motion, whether forward or back, that's the medicine. For me it's been forward motion that has my life on the plus side.

The last two years I've struggled with my emotions regarding the death of my father. Hard, evil, angry, miserable - if it equals the word ugly I've felt it. It’s not a good thing, but we all go through it. Death kills us emotionally and then brings us back to Life. Some people live their life to die. Plan for retirement - don't live for it. Plan to live to a fruitful old age - don't hope to live until you're old.

A few weeks after my father died I had a dream about rats and some other stuff that made no sense. My dreams about him always contained a memory of him, but he was never in the dream. Last night I had a dream and he was there. I was in a kitchen and was serving lemon cookies to two of the kids that starred in the Everybody Hates Chris Show. I think the cookies were lemon because two days earlier I bought an Entenmanns Lemon Crunch Cake. Weird. It was the girl, Tanya and the boy, Drew. We were talking about school and teenage stuff. My father was standing by the side of the table and took a few cookies off the plates and ate them. He was smiling and laughing, but I couldn't hear his voice and he never said anything.

When I woke up I remembered the dream and that he was there! My father was in my dream! He was happy and healthy. He had on his glasses and looked just like my daddy. I thought of the times when I was a teenager and would bake cookies. He would come pick a few off the plate and keep walking into the living room to watch TV. I had a hard time remembering good things until lately.

There has been so much forward motion in my life since 2008. Positive motion. I'm still working on financial stability, but my change is adding up. When you step out on faith you step into you. I miss my daddy. I may have pennies in my change purse, but those pennies are adding up to my IT.

Think about who you are, what you want and what you do. Think about the changes you’ve made or are willing to make to get it. A small change is the catapult for greatness. My dream made me realize that I’m getting there. I’m hurt that my father isn’t here, but I’m living. I’m changing and becoming a better person. At the end of each day I don’t feel that my change drawer is short. I can turn in and know that I’ve done good…I’ve done real good. Do your life math; Is Your Change Adding Up?

Uh…does this dream mean that I need to play a number? (^_^)

I luv you.