Tuesday, April 18, 2006

They Were Someone

As a member of various online writing groups I am treated to many topics, views and different opinions on world news, entertainment and just plain old gossip. Sometimes I respond, many times I don't. A few days ago I read a post of another member and it upset me for reasons I haven't quite come to grips with yet. I didn't respond to the poster, because I feel everyone has a right to their beliefs, but I just couldn't shake the feeling that their words left me with. My blog is a place where my opinion can be challenged, but not changed, so I decided to have a silent, public rebuttal here.

The information that shook me has to do with the disappearance of young women. Many of these women are most likely murder victims, who have suffered a horrific death. We need to know the facts as to how the victim ended up in the face of death to solve their crime. I guess the question I have is does it matter what our own personal opinion is of the person after they were killed? Especially if we didn't know them personally. These victims had families, friends, mothers, fathers. They were someone. I read that one person was tired of hearing about the girl that is missing from Alabama. She was described as a little hick that had no business going off with the men in question. The person typed as if this girl deserved to die. We don't know the true facts. Sadly, we never will. Inexperience, naivety and trust should never equal death.

No one, no matter how intoxicated, how misled or confused, has the right to be murdered. Another human being shouldn't be allowed to decide when is the last time you can be touched and shared with by your loved ones.This may be striking me so intensly because I have daughters. I was a fool many, many times. Drunk driving. Not knowing very much about a man but saying he loved me. Maybe I didn't suffer the same fate as the women that I speak of so I could write this. I'm sure that its more than this and will keep pushing until I find out exactly what it is.

A few weeks ago a young woman was found murdered and dumped on the roadway. The opinions flew about her. "Oh she was a whore, a drunk, she got what she deserved." At what moment did it become okay to say someone deserved to be murdered? We all don't receive a second chance, but should we suffer death as the result of our mistakes? Is it a mistake to tell a person no? Too many questions that will never be answered, at least satisfactory.

Human life has no meaning to some. The complexity of how our body works, the meticulous way we are created, can so easily be taken away by a bullet, our own hands or by something else manmade. As of today, I truly believe opinions are like assholes. Everyone has one and some are full of shit. The missing, the dead - they're not simply chalk outlines. They were someone. Regardless of how long it takes, or the way the met their demise, they deserve to have their stories told.

5 comments:

kim robinson said...

Wanda I am not a blogger so I hope I am doing this correctly. You are right they are someone but in my past life I found that women who are not at home in the kitchen taking care of babies are under the radar for caring about. No one cares about what brought that woman to be a whore or a drug addict, just write her off. Those girls had parents who at one time loved them or not. Somewhere they put god down and the people who are killing them picked up the belief that they were god and could take lives or pass the opinion of who deserved what.

Yolie said...

I understand your frustration. I think, with many of those opinionated minds, they're just as frustrated, but taking the wrong approach to express it. For some, they feel like missing and murdered black women don't get the coverage of blonde-haired, blue-eyed white women. The sad thing is that many start pointing fingers at the missing and dead.

It's like you said, if we've lived long enough or enough, period, we have done things to inadvertently place ourselves in danger. I'd just like to see it fair across the board--whether a woman is black, white, etc., media need to spend enough time getting the message out.

I don't, however, agree with the commenter that these women put God down. All women who come up missing or murdered are not bad women. Sometimes they just happen to be in the wrong place at the wrong time. Or it could just go back to when it's your time, it's your time.

Yolanda
www.juswritinlife.com

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JILL said...

JILL

Wanda,I agree with you wholeheartedly, victims should not be labeled as worthless, they are someone just as we are. Its just a sad state of affairs, that people have turned so callous towards each other. I am truly becoming one of your biggest fans.

I enjoyed your book so much too. There were times I got very emotional because it hit home with situations I've gone through in my life and still are as far as the weight issue and how I deal with food.

What I just read about money was quite interesting how you but that twist to it. You spin a good tale, keep up the good work, you are an inspiration.

With sisterly love
Your sisterfriend!
Peace & Abundant Blessings

JILL said...

Wanda,

I agree with you wholeheartedly, victims should not be labeled as worthless, they are someone just as we are. Its just a sad state of affairs, that people have turned so callous towards each other. I am truly becoming one of your biggest fans.

I enjoyed your book so much too. There were times I got very emotional because it hit home with situations I've gone through in my life and still are as far as the weight issue and how I deal with food.

What I just read about money was quite interesting how you but that twist to it. You spin a good tale, keep up the good work, you are an inspiration.

With sisterly love
Your sisterfriend!
JILL

Peace & Abundant Blessings